CONFIDENCE

                                                 CONFIDENCE

   Confidence is a feeling that you can trust and believe in. It is a belief in your own ability to do things and present yourself in the most attractive and effective manner.

   Confidence is like the shoes with spikes with which you can win the race of life. Confidence can help one to reach unimaginable heights. However we never try to realize this power in our self and because of it we perform well below our capabilities. Lack of confidence can affect one on various occasions such as public speeches, interviews, examinations, etc. This is because where there is no confidence; there is fear of being rejected or fear of failure. The fear inside us is going to take us nowhere. Confidence is what help us to put our thoughts into words in a much better and more effective manner, therefore, we should stay away from the kinds of fear that stop us from presenting ourselves before the world. Instead of being discouraged by these unending moments of fear, it is better if we work on our self with the skills we have and with loads of confidence. Working with confidence will definitely help in our journey to success.

  HOW TO BE CONFIDENT IN LIFE?

      Confidence is contrasted with fear. Where there is confidence there is no fear and vice-versa. Hence, it is always better to live with confidence than with fear. Fear resides in our mind and nowhere else. If there is any fear in our mind; fear of failure, rejection or any other, we shall not be able keep our mind clam and will perform below our capabilities. Such fears prove to be drawbacks and cause a lack of confidence in a person and in everything he does in life. Therefore, the first step towards being confident in life is over-coming all our fears by putting them out of mind. Fear raises many negative thoughts in our mind. Turning those negative thoughts into positive ones may help you to get rid of them. Try to change your way of thinking and reacting to situations and replace the negative questions arising in your mind with positive and encouraging thoughts. Like if the negative question is asked? “Will I able to do that?” instead of this question replace positively like, "I should try it. It shall be a new experience." So on.

  It is how you feel, think and speak those changes your way of doing things. So feel good, fearless and positive and you shall be a confident person.

  Many people in this world are dissatisfied with various things in life. It could be their tone of speaking, physical appearance, habit, works or even their family. If you are not happy and contented with yourself, it indicates that you have no confidence and if you are not confident about yourself, you cannot expect others to have confidence in you. Your confidence will automatically be boosted if you accept yourself as you are. Only after you accept yourself can you display yourself and your abilities to the world in the best way possible. Every individual has certain good and bad aspects, REMEMBER, the negative aspects are for accepting and understanding (they can always be worked upon) while the positive ones are for realizing and developing. Instead of thinking about your weakness, you should concentrate on your strengths. By doing this, you are reminding yourself that you too possess some unique qualities. Your aim should be to improve yourself; hence, you should on yourself and your skills instead of watching others and comparing yourself with them. Instead of searching for another person's good quality in yourself, try to realize, develop and respect your own good qualities that might be lacking in others. This will help you to develop a feeling of confidence.

  One must try to understand the value of positive thinking. At the office the boss assigned an employee the responsibility of managing a complete presentation. This was his first presentation and he was not confident. The first thought that struck him were, "will I able to do it?" what if i make mess of it?'' he taught that he might fail so he did not accept the task. The boss handed it over to some other person and the work was done properly. However, if the employee had been a confident person, he would have gladly taken up the task and would have worked hard for his first presentation to be a success. Having knowledge and knowing all the facts and figures is not enough. You should also have the confidence to expose your knowledge and skills on appropriate occasions, otherwise it may keep one away from many good opportunities in life and to reach the position you deserve.

  Therefore, in order to get rid of such negative thoughts, all you need is the think positive and try to do things without hesitation. You should keep reminding yourself that when you are making an attempt, you might succeed or you might fail, but action is absolute failure. So, why not attempt with confidence. Do every work with an open heart and mind and with the hope of success. If you want to do something and if you know how it has to be done then just prepare your mind for it and go for it without thinking of anything else. If you succeed your confidence will automatically increase and if you don't you shall at least realize what is lacking in you. You shall get the experience of attempting something, which will surely be useful in the future. Whenever you have a problem while at work say to yourself, "I can do it and I will do it," Whenever you are blocked by a difficulty, say to yourself, "I will overcome it". By having such positive and challenging thoughts in mind, you are motivating yourself and due to this you will find your confidence growing.

  If you always keep thinking over your mistakes and failures of the past, you will get nowhere. What is done is done and you cannot change it. It’s no use thinking upon matter and wasting time by being disappointed about the past.  You should concentrate about present and on what has to be done. If you keep your mistakes and failures on your mind and always feel guilty for them then you shall never be able to accept yourself and if you do not accept yourself then even others will not. Keeping such thoughts in mind stops you from progressing and decreases your efficiency. Mistakes and failures are for learning, there are not purposeful or intentional. Therefore, one should consider them as a learning experience and move ahead in life with wisdom and understanding.

      Believe in yourself. Soon, others will believe in you too.

  Attitude is a very important word in the dictionary of success. It is the way you feel and think about somebody or something. Having read the points given above, you must understand that to be confident, you first need to have a positive attitude. Whether it is a teacher, doctor, salesperson or students, nobody can be good in his or her job without a positive attitude. A person with positive attitude always says ''yes'' to whatever work is given to him if he knows how to do it. Therefore, try to have a positive attitude towards yourself and everything you do in your life. This will definitely make you a confident person.

  It is very important to be confident in life but remember; you should try to increase your confidence to the level that is necessary or else it may lead to over-confidence results in dissatisfaction or it will make a person egoistic; a person than start talking big just to maintain his ego. Ego and prides are the result of over-confidence. One should be confident enough to earn appreciation. Over-confident people are ignored. They gradually become lonely and frustrated. Therefore, always remember you yourself are your greatest helper. Nobody can help you to gain confidence. Realize your inner power and try to convert your dreams into reality.